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One of the recurring themes in my personal dating life over the years has been meeting a gender female who is amazing in some way, then meeting her best friend and realizing they are both amazing.

Selves-humor, amazing because she (and the other she) was interested in me.

Should the man be loyal to the first woman? Does he lose both if he decides to connect with the friend? What happens to the relationship between the two gender female friends?

Maurllan.

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"Oh, my heart, my heart. You want magic to dance at the end of a stick for your pleasure. Tell me, are you performing? Are you gathering up the music and flinging it out to your audience, as if it were a truth you wanted them to believe?"

-p.219

Bull, Emma. War for the Oaks, An Ace Book, 1987. ISBN 0-441-87073-2.

"Nothin' wrong with witchfinding. I'd like to be a witchfinder. It's just, well, you've got to take it in turns. Today we'll go out witchfinding, an' tomorrow we could hide, an' it'd be the witches' turn to find US."

-p.391

Pratchett, Terry and Neil Gaiman. Good Omens : The Nice and Accurate Prophecies of Agnes Nutter, Witch, HARPERTORCH, An Imprint of HarperCollingsPublishers, 2006, copyright ©1990 by Neil Gaiman and Terry Pratchett. ISBN 978-0-06-085398-3

"As a forty-nine-year-old Black lesbian feminist socialist mother of two, including one boy, and a member of an inter-racial couple, I usually find myself a part of some group defined as other, deviant, inferior, or just plain wrong."

-Audre Lorde, p.211

"The encounter with one's own soul, with the Anima and Animus, with the feminine and masculine, can have a sexual form. Self-love and love for others is experienced bodily in sexuality, whether via fantasies or [practical] activities. Nowhere is the union of opposites, the unio mystica, the mysterium conjunctionis, more impressively expressed than in the language of eroticism."

-Adolf Guggenbühl-Craig, p.100

"I go among trees and sit still. / All my stirring becomes quiet / around me like circles on water. / My tasks lie in their places / where I left them, asleep like cattle. / Then what is afraid of me comes / and lives a while in my sight. / What it fears in me leaves me, / and the fear of me leaves it."

-Wendell Berry, p.301

Zweig, Connie and Jeremiah Abrams, Editors. Meeting the shadow : hidden power of the dark side of human nature, Jeremy P. Tarcher / Penguin, a member of Penguin Group (USA) Inc., New York, NY, 1991. ISBN 978-0-87477-618-8